Make Your Decisions and Stick to it. Don't be a Floating Ball in the Sea.

If there is anything, you must learn before 2017 ends, it must be the power to make decisions. I carried out a personal survey on several people I met this 2017. I realized that most of these folks are where they are today because of one decision or the other they made or did not make some years back.

Circumstances are a product of your decisions. What you do today determines what happens tomorrow. I know someone might think of spiritual and ancestral curses holding people back even when they did not make that decision. Right? Someone might be thinking that I did not decide to come from a poor background. i didn’t choose my parents, I didn't choose to fail. I didn’t choose this or decide that! Am i right?

But dear, whether you choose it or not: someone has made some decisions for you in advance even before you were born. Your parents decided where you would be born either in Nigeria or America.

So you agree with me that your life is a product of decisions whether chosen by you or not. Today, we will be focusing on decisions and indecision. So I advise make your decisions and stick to it. Don't be a floating ball in the sea. Before now, some decisions have been made for us, which sometimes we cannot certainly alter. Decisions like place of birth, state of origin (your mum decided to marry a Edo man even when she's from Imo state and you became a Edo boy)

Now, you are of age! Your decision lies in your hands. So like the wise man 'once said "I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions."  It is time to make those decisions. Yes, some of you must have hated your parents for some decisions they took that made your life like this. Some of us are angry that our parents could not give us the best of education. Some of us are angry that our parents gave birth to too much children and as such could not cater adequately for them all. Dear, those are bygones. Now, it is your turn to make decisions! It is your turn to build your life and fulfill destiny. How set are you? We cannot keep blaming those old folks. We have the same opportunity now. "Make that decision. Do not be a floating ball in the sea".

I work in a company where we have temporary staff (some call them casuals). I have been working with the coy for over 4years. Before I came, I met some casuals collecting meager salaries and complain every day. Dear, 4yrs after, these complaining folks are still in the system collecting the same meager salary and of course still complaining. What kept them there? It is decision or better still indecision. I was also opportune to learn about someone who left his high paid job to pursue his passion and calling. Now, he is far wealthier his friends. How did it come to be? It is decision!  Robert H. Schuller said, "Sometimes it's the smallest decisions that can change your life forever. What is that decision you are scared of making?

I read a quote on facebook and kept it in my head ever since. It said, "Salary is the money they give you to forget your dream" So many of us have great prospects that has been tied down by salary. We know it ourselves but we are scared to make that decision. We are scared to make that move! I am so sure I am speaking to someone's heart!

Sheryl Sandberg said “Nothing happens until you decide. Make a decision and watch your life move forward.” Some of us have been tied down to one spot for years because of indecision. Do you know that whether you make a decision or not, "you have made one"? What do I mean by this? Keri Russell said, "In not making the decision, you've made one. Not doing something is the same as doing it. For example if I am scared to decide which girl to marry. It also means i have decided to remain single! Like someone always says," not making a decision means you have made a decision not to decide!

First thing I advise you to learn next year is "decision making" I would not be able to speak more on this concept but get to the internet and learn about making decisions! It is very critical especially in this our present world where there are too many things passing through one's mind at a time! You must understand what it takes to make a decision. Some many girls lost their virginity, and their right husband because of indecision! Even some many guys will keep finding wife materials because of indecision!

As Stephen Covey said, "The risk of a wrong decision is preferable to the terror of indecision." Do you know what it means? Let me relate it with one of our lessons previously learnt: Some of us are unwilling to fail. We think failure is not a part of success! Do you remember this lesson? So we prefer not to make that decision because we do not want to be wrong. However, it is better to be wrong than to be indecisive! This is what Stephen Covey is saying. Even the bible warns us against indecision. See this:

But he must ask in faith without any doubting, for the one who doubts is like the surf of the sea, driven and tossed by the wind. For that man ought not to expect that he will receive anything from the Lord, being a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways - James  1:7.

Aneurin Bevan says "There is no more miserable human being than one in whom nothing is habitual but indecision." do you know what will happen when you get in the middle of 3rd mainland bridge and right there in the middle, you are yet to decide whether to cross to the left or cross to the right? I bet you will be run down.

Indecision will always not come as indecision. It will come like "i will do it tomorrow or next week. Oh, I can leave this thing to next month! Hahaha. This is indecision at its peak. So many people would have been better off if not for this! Andy Andrews said 'The word tomorrow was invented for indecisive people and for children. Do not get ruined by indecision. This is the reason why God brought this article to you: to help you deal with indecision.

The following are steps to help you deal with indecision:

·         Never take decisions in a wrong mood. Never! I mean, Never!

·         The best way to overcome indecision with respect to a business decision is to acknowledge what the lack of decision will yield as an outcome at the time of your deadline. In essence, the importance of your decision is then weighed against the outcome you are sure to have if you do nothing. If this outcome is unacceptable, you will have a natural incentive to reach a conclusion and move forward deliberately

·         Phone a friend- seek advice from right persons

·         Decide twice at 2 different occasions and venues and, 2 different moods.

Finally, once you make your decisions, stick to it, trust your first instincts. Refrain from laboring about whether you made the right choice or not and move on.  As I round up, remember that your life changes the moment you make a new, congruent, and committed decision. 

God bless you.